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Complacency: The Ultimate Villian

As we step into rhythm the our hometown once again, I feel like I’m wrapped in a familiar and comforting embrace. The kids are happy to be back with friends, and Diego and I are relieved to have income flowing into our bank accounts once again.

And yet, I’m eye to eye with my greatest fear–complacency. Life is comfortable here. It would be so easy to slip back into our previous life, and let our big adventure drift off to sea without us.

On days where I feel overwhelmed by the uphill climb of completely eliminating all debt, then continuing our frugal lifestyle as we stash away every spare dollar for a boat, is tiresome. Working for ourselves, while rewarding, often leaves me just plain scared. It would be so much easier, to just get a job and follow the script: work all week and fill our weekends with BBQs, home repairs and youth sports.

And yet, I know what that stability feels like. First of all, I think it’s a myth. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow. And secondly, too much safety and security starts to feel like a slow death for me. I start to feel trapped and suffocated. There is something in me (and Diego) that craves new experiences. It’s as vital to my health and happiness as air, water or vitamin D. And apparently this isn’t just in my mind. National Geographic ran a fantastic article the other day which features research pointing to what some refer to as “the Restless Gene.”

Regardless, I don’t have much of a shoulder to cry on here in my hometown, when I start to feel discouraged by the audacity of a goal this big and unconventional. The people around me simply don’t feel or understand this unexplainable urge to sell everything to chase an elusive feeling of adventure. And I’m not looking for sympathy–I am incredibly grateful I have the luxury to chase my dreams in the first place. I guess, I’m just saying it can be a lonely road–that’s all.

A friend posted the photo below on Facebook the other day. And it hit me–this is why we can’t let the dream go. Why we’re determined to pursue it all costs, despite not knowing what the ultimate outcome will be.

MarchDreams-2With the days scripted out before us, we lose our sense of gratitude and wonder. I don’t need a near death experience to remind me how precious each day is.
MarchDreams-3Image from BK Nation. Dreams really do have the power to transport us to other realities. In fact, I think they are the only way to access other possibilities.
MarchDreams-1Another reminder to weigh each choice we’re given against how it moves us toward our goals-whatever that may be. We are given power in each choice we make, to say yes to our dreams, or give way to our fears.


Tiffiney Lozano is the creator of the Mama Said Project and two crazy humans. She offers workshops for women craving connection with themselves and the world around them. After 18- months of continuous travel she and her family are finding adventure in the everyday from the comfort and beauty of their home in the Sierra Nevada mountains near Lake Tahoe.
4 Comments... add your own
  • March 12, 2015, 9:21

    I totally understand. Although our travel adventures are over, it was tempting to go back to Portland and just do what we’ve always done. It would have been comfortable and easy and fun. I still miss it and we are still working to get back there, but first we had to take another path. And who knows where it will lead us? Isn’t that part of the fun? (and the struggle…)

    • March 13, 2015, 8:40

      But there’s this sense of accomplishment right–that really you could do ANYTHING you wanted to, if you want it bad enough. I guess there’s just so much clarity, and whatever you decide to do, it’s intentional. I think when we consciously choose whatever we choose–there’s a sense of gratitude with that.
      I guess in my previous life I felt like I was on autopilot much of the time. I feel like I’m manually steering the ship now.
      You’re on a different kind of adventure now 😉

  • March 11, 2015, 2:02

    Tiffiney, I love this post! It’s exactly how I feel all the time but I haven’t gotten the nerve up yet to sell everything and go for it. So, for now, I’ll read as you pave the way. I’ll get there too! And thanks for the link, 🙂

    • March 11, 2015, 3:05

      I think that’s why we blog Geralyn, right?! To connect with a friend across the screen that “gets us.” We don’t feel crazy or alone then!

      Stay strong! I’ll do the same!
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